Episode #10: Communication Tips for Everyone (Bachelor Contestants AND in Conversations re: Racism & Social Justice)-- with Krysteena Stephens, LAMFT, LPC
In this episode, I am joined by a couples therapist, Krysteena Stephens, LAMFT, LPC. We discuss communication and give examples from Listen to Your Heart and from the most recent season of The Bachelor (with Peter Weber). Krysteena shares some "rules" of communication that she works on with basically every couple she works with:
1. One person talks at a time
2. Repeat what the other person says back to you, to ensure understanding
3. Do not punish the truth
4. Self sooth during conflict
5. Sometimes going to bed angry is okay
6. Aim for a positive feedback to negative feedback ratio of 4:1
The book Krysteena mentioned: NON VIOLENT COMMUNICATION by ROSENBERG. You can get in touch with Krysteena at Treecitywellnessid.com or on Instagram @krysteenamft.
We also touch on the civil unrest that is going on in our country today and how these same communication rules could be applied to our current situation. I truly hope this can be helpful; I know I will be trying out some of these things personally.
You can get in touch with me at draprilwatts.com or on Instagram @draprilwatts. Thank you, as always, for listening. Though we have fun on this podcast... this is important stuff.
What do you think? How can you apply these communication tips to your own life?
Episode #9: Dealing with Rejection & Core Beliefs in the Bachelor Limo & Beyond -- with Lindsay Ralston, LCPC, NCC
Lindsay Ralston, LCPC, NCC joins me to discuss the heartbreaking (but relatable) statements contestants often make when exiting the show after rejection-- things like "what did I do wrong" or "I'm never good enough" (we also briefly discuss Hannah Brown's memorable exit statements when she was on Colton's season of the Bachelor!). Lindsay shares her thoughts about where these statements come from and ways she might help address these things if a client made similar statements. Lindsay is a long-time fan of The Bachelor and The Bachelorette, and we often discuss the show, so recording this episode felt familiar in the best way! If you'd like to follow Lindsay, find her on Instagram @andbelovedandbeloved. And as always, you can find me on Instagram @draprilwatts or online at draprilwatts.com -- please remember to share the podcast with anyone who might enjoy it!
Thanks for listening! What are some of the most memorable exit statements you remember hearing on the Bachelor franchise?
Episode #8: The Danger of Defining our Realities & Relationships with Reality TV (like The Bachelor)-- with Hannah Riley
In this episode, Hannah gives us an insight into her childhood and how much of an influence reality TV shows (like The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, and more) had on her ideas of relationships, sexuality, and values. She has come a long way and makes some great points that are very relatable. She also has a few ideas about how to enjoy shows like The Bachelor in a healthy way!
Thanks for listening! Please share this with others and keep in touch with me on instagram @draprilwatts. :)
On this guest episode, Kara McCutchen and I discuss the world of dating these days and how it sometimes feels like a competition, not unlike what we see in the Bachelor franchise. Kara shares her personal story of forming more intentional friendships, competition for men in the dating world, and how this all impacts her mental health. Kara used to watch the Bachelor and the Bachelorette but no longer does and you will find out why (though she's the first to admit she watches other shows that are similar!). She also offers some great tips for dealing with feelings of inadequacy when in the dating world. You can follow her on instagram (which I highly recommend to see her art and her dating stories) @idahoadventuresart. And as always, please share this episode with anyone who might find it helpful, validating, or interesting-- and you can connect with me via email at firstname.lastname@example.org, on my website draprilwatts.com, or via instagram @draprilwatts.
What did you think? Have you felt this competition in the dating world and how did it affect you?
In this brief solo episode, I share my thoughts about bullying and cyberbullying both on the Bachelor franchise shows and off of them (fans often cyberbully contestants). I explain what bullying is, the negative side effects (there are many) of being a victim and someone who bullies, and give some suggestions for things we can try if we see bullying happening on or offline. As always, thank you for listening! Please subscribe and share this podcast with anyone who might find it interesting or helpful or fun... and follow me @draprilwatts on Instagram or draprilwatts.com!
What is your favorite strategy to deal with bullying?
On this podcast I combine my passion for counseling with my love for The Bachelor/The Bachelorette. We have fun and helpful discussions, recaps, and interviews about all of the Bachelor shows, highlighting topics relevant to mental and emotional wellness! Available on all major podcast platforms (Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Anchor, and more). You can listen and support the podcast by following this link: https://anchor.fm/processthejourney/support