I'm excited to share that I recently had the opportunity to write an article for Pollen, which is an online magazine for private practice therapists. You can read it here: ​What to Know About Working with Highly Sensitive People

Let me know what you think!

Pregnancy... there is a lot of variation in the experience--some women seem to have easier ones, some seem to have harder ones. But either way, it's quite a journey! For high sensitive people (HSPs), I think it's safe to say they might be prone to experiencing things more intensely, yet I find that there's not a lot of information or resources out there to support an HSP through all of the ups and downs of a pregnancy. I wrote an online workbook to try to fill this void, and from that, I thought I'd share a few highlights/tips.

1. Support from others for your sensitive pregnancy: Please advocate for yourself and your needs. HSPs sometimes tune into others' needs more than their own (because we're pretty good at noticing others' needs) but growing a human is a time when tuning into your own needs is not only extremely justified but also, you're meeting the needs of your baby at the same time. Think about your support system and how they can help you through the process. Little household tasks, errands, meals, or listening to you vent--what would make you feel supported? Spend time identifying this and then communicate it with your community.
2. Support yourself! This may be a time when you have to make some lifestyle modifications so you can eat regularly enough, rest more, and spend more intentional time relaxing when you can. It may also be a time to up the comfort level however you can (because pregnancy can be uncomfortable!)--maternity clothes really do make you more comfy!, and you can think about getting new pillows to help with sleep, getting some noise cancelling headphones, or spending extra time in nature or tuning in with mindfulness or meditation.
3. Set boundaries. These boundaries might be with friends or family. They might be around social media use or what kinds of messages about pregnancy, body image, or parenting we want to be exposed to. HSPs are particularly sensitive to this so don't hesitate to limit your exposure.
4. Practice self compassion. This is an ideal time to simplify and let go of the things/habits we're "supposed" to do because sometimes the bare minimum is just perfect!
5. Lean into intuitive eating. Listen to your body. Sometimes the only thing that sounds good might be something you wouldn't normally eat and that's okay. This doesn't mean giving up on nutrition and eating nothing but brownies, but pregnancy often calls for flexibility. Cravings, food aversions, and nausea are all common and intuitive eating can really help you go with the ever-changing flow of all of it. Tune in: what does your body need? 
6. Cut out comparison. Roosevelt said "comparison is the thief of joy". In pregnancy, comparison is also the thief of peace, calm, and acceptance. Try your hardest not to compare your growing belly, your weight, your symptoms, or your emotional state with that of other pregnant women. 
7. Practice positive affirmations. Think about what do you need to hear, and put reminders in your phone or on sticky notes throughout your home. Some ideas: I am strong. My body is strong. My baby is healthy. This too shall pass. My body knows what to do. I am capable. I am safe.

These are just a few ideas of many, but hopefully this is helpful and validating! I wish you a healthy and enjoyable pregnancy--but also know that even if those adjectives don't fit, that's okay too!

If you'd like more of this content, check out my Highly Sensitive Pregnancy Workbook!

Have you ever been told you were “too sensitive”? Do you feel things deeply? Do you notice noise or visual details perhaps more than most? Maybe you sometimes struggle with feeling overwhelmed or drained, especially when you try to keep pace with what the rest of the world seems to be doing.
 
There is a trait prevalent in about 20% of our population (and many other animal species!) called high sensitivity (or, in research terms, sensory processing sensitivity). It has actually been documented in brain scans--HSPs notice details and process things more deeply than 80% of the world, yet it seems many people still don't know this exists, and some HSPs don't know that this is them! I happen to be an HSP myself, and speaking from personal experience and from clients and friends who are also HSPs, learning more about the trait and beginning to honor it can be absolutely life changing--in wonderful and surprising ways.

According to Dr. Elaine Aron, who has done great work to research and bring awareness to this trait, it can be understood through the acronym "DOES":

D: Depth of processing. HSPs have more activity in the area of the brain associated with awareness and consciousness (the insula). They also tend to do better at perceptual tasks and usually have a strong intuition. Not only do HSPs notice more details but we also process them more deeply. This can feel like "a lot" sometimes but it's also a huge gift, especially if HSPs are operating from a place of balance and self-care so these strengths can come through.

O: Overstimulation. Because HSPs notice sensory experiences (and emotions and relationship dynamics) more, they can be prone to feeling overstimulated. I've found that this is very individualized for each HSP. Some HSPs don't notice loud noises as much but for others, noise is very noticeable and sometimes troublesome. Some HSPs notice that they're very tuned into others' feelings, but not as upset by sensory stimuli. One great thing about being an HSP though is that supportive sensory experiences are experienced even more deeply--so this overstimulation can absolutely become a strength once supported!

E: Emotional reactivity and Empathy. HSPs tend to notice and be more impacted by emotions visible on others' faces or detectable by being in the same room. The same goes for any emotional experience--both good and bad. But the important thing to remember here is that HSPs benefit even more from positive experiences (vantage sensitivity is a newer term to describe this phenomenon). HSPs also have extra strong mirror neurons that help them relate to others' experiences and emotions. 

S: Sensing Subtleties. HSPs often notice the little things. Perhaps something is different with someone's face, or something changed in the room. Or maybe HSPs remember a small detail from a few days ago that helps them today and others might comment they never noticed that thing. HSPs notice non-verbal cues, often without realizing it. Sometimes this means HSPs have a sense about someone's feelings, personality, or trustworthiness without necessarily knowing why. 

So, are you an HSP? There are several self-tests available online that take only a few minutes to complete. My favorite, from Dr. Julie Bjelland, is here. There's another by Dr. Aron here. 

If you or someone you know are indeed highly sensitive, feel free to check out the following resources for HSPs, and subscribe to my newsletter to stay informed when I post a new blog or resource about high sensitivity.

HSP Podcast
Brain Training Course for HSPs